5 ideas to make your wedding ceremony extra special

Planning a wedding is such an exciting moment in your life, and at the very heart of the day is your ceremony.

That’s the moment it all becomes real – the vows, the emotion, the joy. And it should feel just right for you.

As a wedding celebrant, I believe your ceremony should be a true reflection of you as a couple. So, if you’re looking for ways to make it truly unique and memorable, here are five ideas that couples absolutely love (and guests always talk about long after the big day!).

1. Include a unique poem

Readings and poetry can bring a lovely rhythm and meaning to your ceremony. Whether you're after something heartfelt, funny, traditional, or totally off-the-wall, I have a beautiful collection of poems for you to choose from – some well-known, some hidden gems.

Want something completely bespoke? I’m more than happy to write something personal just for you. A poem tailored to your love story always brings a special kind of magic.

2. Handfasting – ‘tie the knot’, literally!

Handfasting is an ancient ritual where your hands are gently tied together with ribbons or cords – hence the phrase “tying the knot”! It symbolises the promises you’re making to one another and your commitment to one another.

I did this at my own wedding, and it was also a wonderful way to include both sets of our parents, as they had their own ribbons which were all wound together into a very special knot that we still have to this day.

You can choose colours that reflect your story, involve family in placing the ties, or even create your own cords together in the lead-up to the wedding. It’s visual, meaningful, and makes for gorgeous photos too. Even better? I’ll send you your knot after the wedding so you’ll get to keep it forever!

3. Light a unity candle

The unity candle symbolises two lives becoming one. You’ll each light a smaller candle, and together you’ll use them to light a central flame – the joining of your lives, families, and futures.

You can also involve parents or children if you’d like to represent the blending of families. It’s a simple gesture but incredibly moving, especially when set to music or paired with a reading.

4. Ring warming

I have to admit, this is one of my favourite elements. Before you exchange your rings, why not have them passed around your guests in a little ring warming ceremony? Each person holds them for a moment, silently offering their wishes or good thoughts for your future.

By the time the rings reach you, they’re not just symbols of your love – they’ve been filled with the love of everyone there. It’s a subtle way to include your guests in a very meaningful moment. I like to think of this moment as ‘charging up’ your wedding rings with love and good wishes.

5. Do something completely different

It’s your wedding ceremony, let’s do it your way. Want to include your dog as your ring bearer? Fancy walking down the aisle together to the Jurassic Park theme tune? Thinking of planting a tree or blending cocktails instead of lighting candles? Go for it!

One of the joys of a celebrant-led wedding is the freedom to get creative. If there’s something that really represents you (no matter how quirky!) I’m all ears. Let’s make it happen in a way that feels natural, joyful, and fits you like a glove.

Ready to start planning a ceremony that’s all about you? Get in touch to book a free discovery call. Let’s get the ideas flowing!